Step 2: Waiting Out Your Ex's Rebound Relationship
When you first find out your ex is dating again, you'll want to scream at the top of your lungs. You'll want to rush right over there and somehow stop it. You'll feel the urge to confront your ex, profess your undying love, and beg them to reconsider before moving on with someone else. And in the end? All of those actions would irrevocably damage your chances at getting your ex back.
You can't steal your ex back from someone else until a very important thing happens: they finish the honeymoon stage of their relationship. Once the shiny new coating of your ex's romance finally wears off? Then, and only then, can you begin making an effort to get them back again.
Remember your own relationship? How inseperable you were when you first discovered each other? How you wanted nothing more than to spend every waking moment with this new person you were falling in love with? Well unfortunately, that's how your ex feels during the initial stages of his or her new romance. Nothing you could say or do right now would be likely to change your ex's mind, because they're still going to be fixated on their new love interest. In fact, anything you did do would be detrimental to your ultimate goal of getting your ex back. Later on, whether the new relationship worked out or not, your ex would always remember you as jealous and needy during this time.
How Staying Out of Sight Can Help You Get Your Ex Back
Dropping off your ex's radar right now is the best thing you can do to improve your situation. Obviously you can't stop your ex from dating this new person. And since your ex is going to be looking for some type of reaction from you, the smartest thing to do is not give any reaction at all. By removing yourself completely from your ex's life, you're giving the message that you're no longer interested in what's going on. This may sound counterproductive to getting this person back in your life, but in reality, it's exactly the opposite.
Put yourself in your ex's shoes for a minute. Instead of knowing where you are and what you're doing, your ex now has no idea what's going on. Do you still love them? Do you still want them back? By disappearing completely, your ex has no clue about these things. Their level of comfort drops dramatically once they realize they can't get you back at the drop of a hat. And as they turn back to look at the new person they're dating, they begin to weigh their options:
"Is this person really better than my ex?"
Your ex doesn't have to ask this question while you're still chasing them and making yourself available for them to talk to. But when you remove yourself from the equation entirely? Your ex is faced with thoughts of losing you for the first time since the break up. This is precisely what you want to happen here.
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Why Rebound Relationships Never Work Out
As bad as things seem during this hard time, there's actually a bit of good news: most rebound relationships fail before reaching the six-week mark. This means that in as little as a month and a half's time, your ex will be single again... and possibly even reeling from being dumped themselves.
To determine whether or not your ex is now involved in a rebound relationship, a few questions must be answered. How long after you and your ex broke up did they start dating this new person? The shorter the time period, the more likely their new romance is nothing more than a casual rebound. When your ex starts dating again immediately after breaking things off with you, they tend to bury their feelings and emotions rather quickly. In doing this, those feelings aren't buried very well, and can be drawn out a lot more easily.
How long did your ex know the person they're now dating? If this was someone they recently met, the likelihood of a rebound is greater. When your ex starts dating someone without an established history of being together, they have to make their own history. But you and your ex already have a long string of good memories of the two of you being together, giving you a distinct advantage.
A little later on during this process, you can use these memories to stir up old feelings of love and longing that your ex still has for you. This type of approach is covered fully as you learn the proper use of these rediscovery techniques.
Stealing Your Ex Back From a New Boyfriend or Girlfriend
Unfortunately, once your ex begins dating again there's no quick fix. There's little you can say or do during the early stages of their new relationship, and there's no magical formula that will make them "wake up" and suddenly realize they love you again.
That being said, there are certainly things you can do at this time to accelerate the process of getting your ex back. Focusing inwardly on improving yourself is probably the best example of this.
Have you fallen out of shape? Join a gym, and start exercising. Not only will all that hard work make you look and feel better, but it will also get your mind off your ex's new romance for a while. Any distraction you can give yourself right now is a good one, especially one that's as constructive as exercising.
And while you're working on physically improving yourself? Don't forget the mental aspect as well. Even though it hurts to see your ex enjoying good times with their new boyfriend or girlfriend, try to stay positive about your long term prospects for dating again. Every single break up has the potential for getting back together again, and yours is no exception.
Try to create a mindset in which you're putting forth good, positive energy. Remember that eventually, you'll once again reconnect with your ex. How you look, feel, and act when this happens is going to have a big influence on whether or not they'll want to start seeing you again.
How Long Does a Rebound Relationship Last?
Usually about 4 to 6 weeks. But when the honeymoon's over, it's time for you to move onto the 3rd step of getting your boyfriend or girlfriend back:
Secretly Reconnecting With Your Ex.
- Step 1: Demonstrating Acceptance & Withdrawal
- Step 2: Waiting Out The Honeymoon Phase of Your Ex's New Romance
- Step 3: Reconnecting Secretly With Your Ex
- Step 4: Establishing New Trust and Friendship
- Step 5: Setting Up a Reunion With Your Ex
- Step 6: Using Your Past History To Draw Out Your Ex's Feelings & Emotions
- Step 7: Undermining The Foundation of Your Ex's New Relationship
- Step 8: Getting Back Together With Your Ex
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